And bell, I believe that you believe what you just said is 100% accurate........ however, what parent would say "well sh!t, it figures. I saw this coming for years....."
It's almost like people I see walking their pitbulls that swear it's the "most docile dog ever" and "it will only lick you to death" and then a year later you see that same person in public and they have stitches or scars and you ask them where their dog is and they say "oh, I had to put him down because he bit me........ but he never, ever acted like that before....".
I don't think parents inherently see flaws in their kids because a flaw in their kid means a flaw came from the parent.
Obviously bell I'm not saying your kids would ever be involved in something like this, but which parent does?