OT - just need to vent

[LonghornSoldier]

I fell in love ith a psychopath a few years back.... didnt realize it then.... saw flashes but i rationalized them away..... lots of shit has gone down over these 4 years... i wont act like i am without fault here bc that isnt real.... but i have always been able to own my shit and apologize... even when i actually didnt do anything wrong and could prove it i apologized..... in 4 years not once did she ever even attempt to say the words im sorry for anything and made it a point to let me know everything was always my fault....

blah blah blah.... today i decided i couldnt do it anymore after she started sending the most vile messages to one of my buddies trashing him fully unprovoked..... he has never been nasty or rude,,, but out of the blue she goes off on him for awhile before he finally says something rude back.. he wasnt rude to start, i saw the messages... in MY own fb messenger where she was doingthis from... and then realized she had been sending me nasty raw shit too......

i headed to the condo we lived in and it went downhill from there... refused to let me get my stuff, tried to lock me out... actually took keys of my key chain when i was sleeping the night before.... i got it in, not crazy or violentor anything lol.. just went in a window... she started acting all crazy and screaming.... saying i broke in to her house etc etc..... so she goes and cals the cops...... but i did too so they didnt show up thinking i was a burglar... explained i lived there, showed them mail, they saw all my stuff.... she then started lying to them and trying to force the breaking in thing - which they said i didnt do bc i lived there and she cant just take my keys and lock me out bc she gets mad.. she tried tellng them other stuff solely to get them to arrest me and they called her on her shit......

to cut to the point - i didnt go to jail. today ranks top 3 for worst days of my life, and if you know anything about my past that is saying something about how bad today was..... and to make it worse, she is trying to say this is all my fault etc.... smfh. if it aint bad luck its no luck... i am so beyond mind blown... if i had the time or energy to explain more details you would probably shit yourself..... i cant do this shit anymore...... .

thanks for letting me go off.... been up since 5, im going to bed.... thank god today is over.

 

[freeper]

Sometimes we just need to blow off the steam LS. No words I can offer you are going to change your situation so I'll just tell you to keep on pluggin' and I'll send thoughts and prayers your way.

 

[clob94]

Bub, burn it down.

Nobody is worth that bullsh!t.

 

[LonghornMM]

Hopefully you got a good nights sleep, LS. We've all been through difficult times. One thing is always certain though, tomorrow comes and things die down over time. Control what you can control, which is yourself. You have no control what she does or doesn't do.

 

[LongfellowDrew]

Hopefully you got a good nights sleep, LS. We've all been through difficult times. One thing is always certain though, tomorrow comes and things die down over time. Control what you can control, which is yourself. You have no control what she does or doesn't do.

Couldn't agree with this more. Get yourself out of a negative situation bro and make sure you mentally recover.

 

[Belldozer1]

These types of situations are quite common these days and they generally all have one common denominator to blame: OBAMAjk, jk. On a serious note, that selfish deal never works out, if someone "is never wrong or at fault" stay away. My dad told me the best way to get over one is to start dating another one. What he failed to tell me was that women are all a pain in the ass so you ought to find one who has a little money. Maybe he thought that was a given that I should know that? Well, 20 years of marriage later I know that.

 

[HornsRuleU]

@Belldozer1 :
If all women are a pain in the ass, it could be you and not them. Or maybe I'm just extremely fortunate to have met my wife.

Like anyone, all women have strengths and weaknesses. The question is which points you value. If you value the wrong things -- things that disappear with time anyway, for example, like how hot she looks -- then you're going to have to put up with a lot of crap. And that's your fault for not valuing the right things, like wisdom, tenderness, loyalty, intelligence, a sense of humor, and so on.

@LonghornSoldier :
Live and learn, L-Soldier. We've all misevaluated someone, at some point. I know I have, anyway. Learn the right lessons from this, and not ones that cause you to overreact and rebound the other way. Make sure this experience was a net victory for you, in the end. Stay strong.

 

[mm42]

Did she atleast follow the crazy to hot formula? Can not imagine you ignored that much for nothing. The crazy one's normally have a certain redeeming quality. But that is only fun for a while, not years.

Don't beat yourself up, and move on. Nobody is perfect.

 

[TX1972]

There is an old Mexican saying, probably pre Columbian, that it is bad luck to touch a crazy person. I can say from experience that it is even worse luck to f**k one.

 

[oldschoolcat]

Ahh yes....crazy women. The eternal conundrum.

You aren't the first and definitely not the last. I know that doesn't make it any easier, but we have all been there. Some even married one.

Hang in there dude and to quote a good friend who is also a counselor....."that's why God invented alcohol". (unless you can't handle the fire water)

 

[LonghornSoldier]

she was gorgeous mm42 lol.... i dunno... i still cant believe what went on yesterday......and she tried talking to me about solutions today..... ? que? th biggest immediate problem has no solution.... she called the cops and then tried anything to get me arrested..... like wtf is that?

 

[mm42]

she was gorgeous mm42 lol.... i dunno... i still cant believe what went on yesterday......and she tried talking to me about solutions today..... ? que? th biggest immediate problem has no solution.... she called the cops and then tried anything to get me arrested..... like wtf is that?

Run. Be nice to her, tell her it is you not her. And run. Beauty fades with time, crazy grows with time. Be careful.

 

[clob94]

she was gorgeous mm42 lol.... i dunno... i still cant believe what went on yesterday......and she tried talking to me about solutions today..... ? que? th biggest immediate problem has no solution.... she called the cops and then tried anything to get me arrested..... like wtf is that?

Bruh------- lets do the math here---

1. The police were called....... that means a report has been filed and your name is on it.
2. Let's say the two of you do find a way to patch this up with a band-aid----- and then a few months down the road she flips out again and calls the cops------- again.... Your name is already on their radar..... they will take somebody to jail..... want that to be you?
3. Now you've REALLY got problems because you have an arrest record for------ whatever she wants you arrested for. In today's climate----- right or wrong-- women hold the trump card--- and you have to approach it as such. If she says you physically harmed her--- it's up to YOU to prove you didn't, not her to prove you did. If she says she fears for her life--- how do you prove it's untrue?
4. Even if faux charges stick---- you're now a FELON. No voting, no guns, no job--- your life is permanently screwed.

Now, before you say "Clob, there's no way she would take it that far---- I know this girl--- she loooooooves me.........". My response is--- well I bet if I told you years ago when you first met that she'd try to have you arrested at some point you'd have said "Clob, there's no way she would take it that far--- I know this girl-- she loooooooves me......".

CUT BAIT BRO........... There is ZERO vagina in the world that is worth going to jail for let alone losing your rights as a human being and having to register as a sexual offender every where you go from now on.
1 + 2 + 3 + 4= 10------ 10 is the number of years in prison you'll get if she has you arrested for assault, battery, rape, trespassing and making terroristic threats (open this door or I'll kill you b!tch!)

Jump out of the plane and pull the rip chord.

 

[Belldozer1]

she was gorgeous mm42 lol.... i dunno... i still cant believe what went on yesterday......and she tried talking to me about solutions today..... ? que? th biggest immediate problem has no solution.... she called the cops and then tried anything to get me arrested..... like wtf is that?

The way she handled that whole deal is pretty severe and you are not even married. That kind of deal MAY cause you to go off in the heat of the moment and make you do something that you may do some prison time for. I would get out now.
Have you considered farmers only.com?

 

[Cotton #12]

Sometimes what you want is Not actually as it is and love has a way of not giving you a true look,If you cannot depend on her then move on as your life will be better.

 

[AlabamaHorn]

Someone once told me: it's better to want something you don't have than to have something you don't want.

The farther away from the situation you get the more clearly you will see how bad of a situation it really was. I have been there and.I still wonder today why it took me so long to get out. It sucks now, but you will be thankful down the road.

 

[diadevic]

Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you.

Hang in there LHS - the sun will come out tomorrow. And go watch the movie "Swingers" - you might find some comedy in your misery.

 

[diadevic]

Beauty fades with time, crazy grows with time.

This is the most profound truth I have ever read on this board.

 

[Drtxhorn]

Sorry to hear about this. You deserve prayers, much respect and the ever-redeeming grace of God. We all have taken different paths and journeys with women where we strive for that storybook relationship where unconditional love, respect, honesty and the beauty of shared experiences makes life fulfilled and joyous with that special woman. When that unfortunate time occurs where you no longer are able to realize this dream, it's sad and it points to a valuable lesson and resolution that has held true for centuries:.....next time, just find a woman with big t!ts.

 

[UTGrad87]

I fell in love ith a psychopath a few years back.... didnt realize it then.... saw flashes but i rationalized them away..... lots of shit has gone down over these 4 years... i wont act like i am without fault here bc that isnt real.... but i have always been able to own my shit and apologize... even when i actually didnt do anything wrong and could prove it i apologized..... in 4 years not once did she ever even attempt to say the words im sorry for anything and made it a point to let me know everything was always my fault....

blah blah blah.... today i decided i couldnt do it anymore after she started sending the most vile messages to one of my buddies trashing him fully unprovoked..... he has never been nasty or rude,,, but out of the blue she goes off on him for awhile before he finally says something rude back.. he wasnt rude to start, i saw the messages... in MY own fb messenger where she was doingthis from... and then realized she had been sending me nasty raw shit too......

i headed to the condo we lived in and it went downhill from there... refused to let me get my stuff, tried to lock me out... actually took keys of my key chain when i was sleeping the night before.... i got it in, not crazy or violentor anything lol.. just went in a window... she started acting all crazy and screaming.... saying i broke in to her house etc etc..... so she goes and cals the cops...... but i did too so they didnt show up thinking i was a burglar... explained i lived there, showed them mail, they saw all my stuff.... she then started lying to them and trying to force the breaking in thing - which they said i didnt do bc i lived there and she cant just take my keys and lock me out bc she gets mad.. she tried tellng them other stuff solely to get them to arrest me and they called her on her shit......

to cut to the point - i didnt go to jail. today ranks top 3 for worst days of my life, and if you know anything about my past that is saying something about how bad today was..... and to make it worse, she is trying to say this is all my fault etc.... smfh. if it aint bad luck its no luck... i am so beyond mind blown... if i had the time or energy to explain more details you would probably shit yourself..... i cant do this shit anymore...... .

thanks for letting me go off.... been up since 5, im going to bed.... thank god today is over.

LS . . . Listen up my friend. Your post sent chills down my spine. I had a very similar problem several years back with a friend who happened to be a female but we were just drinking buddies, nothing more. But I knew this gal was frickin nutzo . . . and I mean grade A sociopath but I stuck around anyway. And she did some of the things you wrote about above.

Not kicking her to the curb was the worst mistake I've made in my life!! That bitch ruined several relationships just for her own amusement, and if she were a man, I would have knocked her 4 front teeth down her throat on several occassions. It got that bad and I allowed it to happen.

Run buddy . . . don't look back. Get out now and cut off all contact. Your situation will only grow worse, not better. Mark my words. Life is too short to have these kinds of people in your life.

LEAVE NOW. Get ur things and get out or throw her out. But do it now. And whatever you do don't let her beguile you into getting back together . . . because she'll try her best. Sociopaths hate to lose. Don't under estimate her or the danger of the situation you're in right now. The rest of your life depends on how you handle this. It's that serious.

 

[4MNChampsHorn]

When things seem to be forced, then you know it's not the right time, person, job, etc.

 

[clob94]

Uh....... I know some dudes that know some dudes that know some dudes that can take her out to IHOP for pancakes.