“Memories are everyone’s second chance at happiness.” —Queen Elizabeth
It’s funny how our brains work. Sometimes I can’t remember what I ate a few hours ago, yet if I hear a song play from my teenage years my mind goes back to an exact time and place where I heard that song for the first time or an event that I can remember crystal clear.
As you know I’ve been a Grief Specialist for a while now and one of the goals for recovery is to process the painful things of a loss so that what remains are fond memories of, for example the loss of a loved one. It’s not an easy process, in fact it’s painful, but like working out in a gym, no pain, no gain is a true part of the process to get to the finish line.
When I lost my dad, the initial pain was unbearable; all I could focus on was the loss of my hopes and dreams for him to see many things he was looking forward to witnessing such as my daughter’s wedding, his twin great granddaughters, and many other events. Now that I’m recovered, when something reminds me of my dad, I think of the happy times we shared and the wisdom he gave me growing up.
Some of us may not have fond memories of our parents who’ve passed away or others in our lives that had a negative impact on us. It’s important to remember what we learned from those experiences so that we don’t repeat those patterns of behavior and thus we can create new positive memories, i.e. a second chance at happiness.
I wish you all a happy Friday.
Philippians 4:8
TSK
It’s funny how our brains work. Sometimes I can’t remember what I ate a few hours ago, yet if I hear a song play from my teenage years my mind goes back to an exact time and place where I heard that song for the first time or an event that I can remember crystal clear.
As you know I’ve been a Grief Specialist for a while now and one of the goals for recovery is to process the painful things of a loss so that what remains are fond memories of, for example the loss of a loved one. It’s not an easy process, in fact it’s painful, but like working out in a gym, no pain, no gain is a true part of the process to get to the finish line.
When I lost my dad, the initial pain was unbearable; all I could focus on was the loss of my hopes and dreams for him to see many things he was looking forward to witnessing such as my daughter’s wedding, his twin great granddaughters, and many other events. Now that I’m recovered, when something reminds me of my dad, I think of the happy times we shared and the wisdom he gave me growing up.
Some of us may not have fond memories of our parents who’ve passed away or others in our lives that had a negative impact on us. It’s important to remember what we learned from those experiences so that we don’t repeat those patterns of behavior and thus we can create new positive memories, i.e. a second chance at happiness.
I wish you all a happy Friday.
Philippians 4:8
TSK
