Ketch's 10 Thoughts From the Weekend (Orangbloods is the modern American family ...)

Craigp0409

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@Ketchum I know that was tough to share. It is a hard thing trying to explain to people that your parent didn't want you. My mother gave up custody of me and my sister when we were 5 and 4 years old to my dad's parents. We lived with them for 5 years until my dad took over custody and proceeded to move us to Belton from Detroit. In 1982 this was a big shock but it ended up being the best thing that happened to me. Thanks for sharing you story with us. I agree that this is a family. I was blessed to be invited to my best friends family for the last 30 years. I have spent many Easters, Thanksgivings and many Christmas with them while my relationship with my family struggled. My best friends father also got me into my career and was my mentor. We lost him last Thursday. He was a wonderful man. Life is hard, support your friends and let them know you love them.
 

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@Ketchum It takes a lot of strength to share something that personal. I would go as far as putting what you shared in the intimate category.
Thank you for having the strength to do so.
Great column....well timed and very well written!
 

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@Ketchum That sounds like quite a gut punch but you are much better off knowing where the situation stands, and you can now move on, knowing at the least, you did the right thing. Thanks for sharing the story.
 

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That was a very tough read about your dad. I cannot fathom any father saying that. I cannot fathom having to be on the receiving end. The good news is you have another chance at a father-child relationship with your children.
 

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@Ketchum, I was very touched by your story and I admire your perseverance through all these personal hardships. It is not easy to have the kind of attitude and respect that you show everyone on this site and you get way too much "crap" from people. I will be praying for you and your family a lot more going forward. God Bless!
 

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Ketch, didn't read the post after the first part because I wanted to comment on just that...2 things.

Your "father" is not a father. Never call him that again. He doesn't deserve that name and he doesn't deserve your time. I can't look at my kids without tearing up, can't imagine them not in my life, can't fathom not paying attention to them, watching them grow up, sacrificing for them, arguing, fighting, laughing, etc... In some ways, this prick (sorry) is actually teaching you one of a father's best lessons - how NOT to be a father. My father was an alcoholic, died when I was 12 from cirrhosis...never took me anywhere, never showed emotion, belligerent....we lived in Conroe in poverty with no AC, rarely had running water and used the bathroom outside more than in. He taught me how NOT to be. I've taken every shitty day from my youth and used that as motivation to support, enhance, sacrifice and love my 2 kids. You should EXPECT that from your "father". You made the effort with him, kudos to you. The only thing you can control now is you. Go be an amazing FATHER!

I missed the events with "65" this weekend. I did comment on a thread about people offering up their time to talk to others that are struggling but didn't realize there was an event that triggered it. I admit I sometimes get into a funk and it takes some time and talking to get right. I TRULY appreciate those of you that are offering and would say that I'm willing to listen and buy a beer for ANYONE that needs an ear to bend for as long as needed. I've been through some horribly trying times and have a perspective that would benefit anyone. Ketch, mourning is a natural reaction and sadness is a good thing...it means you're alive. I learned a long time ago that life isn't about being happy. Like any emotion, happiness ebbs a flows, like sadness, anger, etc... Life is about being content, satisfied, having meaning. That's what family provides. Maybe your "father" won't give that to you, but your wife, your kids and this board will.

It's a bumpy road sometimes but with time, it ALWAYS gets better.

Now, about Emmit being #1....no.
 
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Wow @Ketchum , unbelievable about your biological father.You showed real courage in reaching out to attempt to establish a relationship. Pray for your father that whatever demons/hatred he has to make him act that way he will eventually overcome and make amends with you. Hope you get to meet your half sisters and establish a relationship with them soon. I am sure they would want to know their big brother!
 

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That was a tough read but probably the best thing you’ve ever written.
I second what CS said.

@Ketchum You could have easily stopped with your 1st thought and left it at that. Strong words for a tough summer.
 
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I have met you a couple times with my son @CHaysP who is now married and an officer in the Air Force. You are a good man with a big heart and without being condescending I'm proud of you for handling that situation face to face. Later on it will be a clear line of demarcation and release.

I grew up knowing my father was dead until I was 30 and he called out of the blue. He had a couple of strokes and was nearing the end and was trying to make nice. I was polite and wished him the best but he was never there for me or my mother and I wanted nothing to do with him. He sent me a couple of letters that were never opened and a few weeks later I got a random phone call from some relative I had never met saying my father had died. He should have come to see me face to face but he was a coward.

You got to meet some of the young men who lovingly call me "Pops" and I will tell you what you are going through is unfortunately common. One of my "boys" had almost the same experience when he reached out to his biological father face to face but now he's a great young man and is as committed a father as I've seen. I have 3 stepdaughters who are my girls as I have raised them since they were 6,6 & 4 and their father is worthless and not even allowed any access to their lives legally. Be that father you can be and I believe in you.

We appreciate this crazy family!
 

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@Ketchum my dear man, i am sitting here at my desk in my office (KBR) houston, tx, reading your account with your biological father... my heart is now broken.

good god my wonderful man... i am near tears. however, i shall lift up my head, and keep you in my thoughts for the rest of the day. hopefully, when i am in Austin, i could meet you and shake your hand. the world is indeed a better place... because you are with us...
 

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@Ketchum sorry if this has come up in the first 7 pages- I don't have time to read it all.

From a friend of mine who works in counseling (I told her about @hornsfan65 's final thread here).

"Did anyone set up a follow up post to offer resources to the community? I know it's an online community so it's hard to localize. But just checking in with people to make sure they're processing the event ok. Also just to let people know that in such an event there's national hotline numbers to share with others but also Google the city they're in or near and "mhmr" or "local mental health authority" and there's a local crisis hotline that will come up in most cases and that's typically what they're called nation wide"

It is absolutely heartbreaking that this man did not have his calls for help answered (despite the laudable job everyone in those threads did to keep him on the line), and there should always be a number they can call. It might be good to let the board know what they can do to help if something like this ever comes up in the future.
 

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a. It's hard to say. I don't know that it deteriorated. I thought inroads towards a better relationship had been made, but that is completely controlled by the whims of my father and when he volunteered to make himself available recently. He's very detached from everyone he knows in Texas, including his sister. He basically told me the only thing that makes her family is the blood, not any relationship that they have.

I'm the black sheep of my dad's family. I don't even know how many people know about me. I've never met my dad's wife or my half-sisters.

As my dad said on Tuesday, "I didn't call you because I didn't think to and I surely didn't want that to be your coming out party."

The funeral story is wild. It could have been 3,000 words by itself.

Your story absolutely breaks my heart. Congrats to you for setting the bar on what taking the high road truly means....my god I can't even imagine the pain you've dealt with. You're no black sheep bro.
 

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Good read Ketch. I had a similar situation with my father. It culminated in a couple of phone calls after he was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I guess he felt a little guilty. I was long done with worrying about him at that point. I was polite and understanding on the phone but once the calls ended I stopped thinking about him. He had been a dick for the previous 36 years of my life. I don't love him or hate him. I rarely think about him.
 
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Kathleen Kelly: You know, I don't really think that HE could be your nephew.

Joe Fox: No, no, no, it's true. Annabelle is my - *aunt*. Isn't that right, Aunt Annabelle?

Annabelle Fox: Uh-huh, and Matt is his...

Kathleen Kelly: Oh wait, wait, wait, let me guess. Are you his uncle?

Matthew Fox: No.

Kathleen Kelly: His grandfather?

[Matt giggles, as he shakes his head]

Kathleen Kelly: His great-grandfather?

Matthew Fox: [laughing] I'm his brother!

Joe Fox: [answering Kathleen's very confused look] Matthew is my father's son, Annabelle is my *grandfather's* daughter. We are... an American family.



On Tuesday afternoon, just a few miles away from the San Francisco airport at a restaurant called Mokutanya, I sat eye to eye with my father, just the two of us, for the first time in my life.

Some of you will know this about me, but many of you will not - I have a complicated relationship with my biological father. He was about to graduate from Baylor in 1975 when he went on a few dates with my mom, who was a junior in high school at Waco Reicher at the time. Somewhere along the way inside of those dates, yours truly was created. While my mom decided to raise me on her own as an 18-year-old high school senior, my dad went off to California and started a new life that was different from anything he'd every known in Texas, eventually emerging as one of the most successful men in the entire high tech world over the last 30 years.

Over the course of the first 37+ years of my life, we'd never met, despite the fact that he paid child support until I was 18 and helped with a year of my college tuition when I was at Texas. While I used to spend weekends with his parents when I was a child, he just never had an interest in really having a relationship with me. Obviously.

All of that changed when my twins arrived in 2014, as we met a few weeks after they were born and he visited them the next day while they were in the NICU. That was followed up with another luncheon with Heather (my wife), Hendrix and Haven roughly two years later . Although we weren't on steady speaking terms, I was under the impression that our relationship was one that was growing, albeit at a very slow burn.

That impression changed in July when my grandfather, who I had spent the last few years redeveloping a relationship with, died in Lakeway about 15 minutes from my house in Cedar Park. Even though my dad had apparently been in town for almost two weeks, he never called me. No one did. Feeling that my grandfather would have wanted me at the funeral, but knowing that every person at the funeral wouldn't have wanted me there, my wife and I sat in our car for nearly two hours on the day of his funeral at his grave-site until everyone left so that we could pay our respects.

In an effort to cut this "Dear Diary" moment as short as possible for you guys reading this, I ended up requesting/demanding a meeting after a series of insulting emails from him that I'm sure weren't meant to be insulting but couldn't be anything but. Anywhere, any place ... just tell me and I'd fly to him for a one-on-one. He suggested we talk on the phone. I told him I deserved an in-person conversation.

So, there I was in San Francisco at a Japanese restaurant that he said had five-star reviews online. Face to face.

It didn't take a rocket scientist to know that the things he was going to say to me were going to be rough, but damnit, I felt like it was time to stop pussyfooting with the situation and just be real with each other for one time in our lives.

And he got real, telling me over the course of an hour the following:

* Wished I had been aborted and still feels that way today.
* Views me as one of the three worst mistakes of his life (we didn't discuss the other two).
* There will never be a future relationship because it's too much trouble for him and he wouldn't want to have to try to explain me to his friends.
* Basically doesn't view me as his son and certainly not someone he would claim as family.

There was actually a lot more, but I'm sure you'll get the point after those four small examples. Honestly, it was a lot to absorb, especially with nothing but time on my hands in the 8 hours that it took to get back to Austin. It was quite humbling.

Thankfully, I had Orangebloods to lean on and whether I was discussing Longhorn football, Emmitt Smith's place as the best running back of all-time or arguing whether Sadio Mane was a more productive player than Eden Hazard over the last three years in the Premier League, I had our big, crazy dysfunctional crazy-town to lean on as a distraction. Even if I hadn't told anyone I needed the company, the Orangebloods family was there for me in that exact moment of needed companionship.

That truth hit home for me the following day when I was driving down South Lamar past Post South Lamar, which is where our Orangebloods brother Christian Meroney had been murdered earlier this month. When I looked over towards the building as I drove by, I just dropped into a sunken place. It had just been a couple of days before when we all learned that another Orangebloods family member John Ballard McDonald (Orange Turdfrog) had passed away and I felt the full weight of losing them in that moment.

Between the two of them, they'd been on the site with me for more than two decades. That's a long damn time. Believe me, I know what that means in so many ways. There's a lot of life equity on this board. The thing that I love about this wildly chaotic family of ours the most is that when urgent matters call for it, the Orangebloods family responds like a boss every time. EVERY TIME. I might have argued with Christian about the most unimportant things on a daily basis, but if I was ever in need, I feel like there's no question he'd be there. I know I would have been there for him. Numbers greater than we can count would have.

It dawned on me while I was at a stoplight on South Lamar, pushed to the brink of tears, that Orangebloods is the modern-day American family. It doesn't make sense that this community has emerged into something bigger than a mere message board, but my Orangebloods family has been there for me in ways that my "real family" has never and will never be there.

Over the course of the last two decades, this family of ours has changed the scope of my entire life. I met my wife on the eve of the 2005 Big 12 title game because of this place. People who stood next to me at my wedding were introduced through this place. Hell, my son's name came from a post I made asking for suggestions.

All of this leads me to this morning when I woke up to see a thread posted by @hornsfan65 called "Adios." Inside of that thread, an Orangebloods family member seemed to be leaving a bit of a suicide note. Overwhelmed with all of the loss in his life, the indications were given that he was going to take is life and he wanted to thank the Orangebloods family for being there for him. In a panic, I did what I could to help and just hoped that the pleading from the members of the board would lead him to give it just one more day. I prayed that he'd let us lift him up like so many others have been lifted up over the last two decades, myself included.

The pleading and the prayers failed, as it was confirmed by his wife on Sunday morning that Bryce had taken his life. Alone in his car, his last words were directed towards the Orangebloods family that he loved and appreciated. Left behind is a wife and an 11-year old son that will never have their husband and father again, respectively.

It's just devastating in so many ways. It's as this point that I'm kind of out of words because I don't know what to say.

We've lost three Orangebloods family members in the last month and we can't get so much as another hour with any of them, which is haunting. More than anything, I just want to let anyone else on this site that is feeling the types of pressure that @hornfan65 was feeling to know that we're all here for each other. I'm here for you. Your Orangebloods family is for you.

I've known all of this before, but it hit home hard in the last few days.

In a week when the definitions of what is and isn't family in my life have been firmly defined, I want to express by undying gratitude to my Orangebloods family. I don't know what I'd ever do without you.

Even if some of you are like the uncle we all want to hide in another room away from the family at Thanksgiving dinner, you're still my family. I started this section with a movie reference and I'm going to end it with one.


No. 2 - Three Biggest Takeaways From The First Three Days ...

* This true freshman class is going to make a much bigger impact this season than most people are probably expecting, and that includes myself. In addition to Caden Sterns (more on him in a bit), Brennan Eagles is working with the second-team offense, Junior Angilau has made a bigger first impression than any other first-year lineman in the program thus far (yes, that includes Calvin Anderson) and Ayodele Adeoye continues to look like a guy that will be starting sooner than later in his career. Every dude that was recruited in the 2016 and 2017 recruiting classes better understand that it's now or never... or risk getting passed by a younger player. Talented freshmen are everywhere and they are going to play, new rule that allows every freshman four games to play with or not.

* Texas doesn't have five good offensive linemen yet, so Herb Hand is giving everyone a chance to make a case for themselves. In an ideal world, you're not shuffling guys all over the place across first-team and second-team roles in August, but the status quo from last season (and even this spring) just isn't good enough. It's possible that we need to throw away any predispositions we might have had about the make-up of the starting line going into the season in the trash can because it sure seems like Hand has.

* Sam Ehlinger will have to have a really poor camp to lose the starting quarterback job. When Herman announced that Ehlinger had earned the right to take the first reps with the first-team offense, he was telling us that separation on the scoreboard has taken place. What I find fascinating about the job security at the position is that it might be a little like the job security Tyrone Swoopes had going into the 2016 season. Bottom line - Sam better player well in the first half against Maryland. If he does that, he might just run away from everyone for the next few seasons. If he doesn't, Herman will almost certainly play another option. When you have four guys and they can all play without consequence, a head coach's patience will only last so long.

No. 3 - "I JOG FASTER THAN CALVIN ANDERSON AND I HAD MY KNEE REPLACED SIX MONTHS AGO!!"...

If you missed it in Alex's notes from Sunday, this was a quote from Herb Hand at practice while the offensive line was jogging from one section of the practice fields to another.

Subtle. I like it. Sounds like Calvin needs to pick up his pace.

Quote of the Year at this point.

No. 4 - My possible big dose of hyperbole in the column ...

Caden Sterns might be the best player in this program before we get to December.

I've spent all weekend thinking about it and I can't remember the last time a true freshman started the first game of the season in the secondary, let alone took the very first rep in August with the first-team defense. I ran every name I could think of through my brain and couldn't think of anyone. So, I looked it up.

Didn't happen last year, obviously. Or 2016. Or 2015. Or 2014. Or 2013. Or 2012. Or 2011. Or 2010. Or 2009.

While I thought I might go into the last century, it turns out the last defensive back to start a game as a true freshman was Blake Gideon. I totally forgot that. No one else has done it this century. I stopped looking at some point in the Mackovic years, with the point being that it doesn't happen very often firmly established.

The metrics from the last decade suggest that Sterns entered college with anywhere between a 65-75 percent chance of one day emerging as a player that will be drafted by an NFL team. Unless injuries occur, he looks like a guy that will start every game of his career and emerge as a legit awards candidate in very short time.

Sterns is what it looks like when a five-star player goes boom and you can't have enough of them.

No. 5 - Riddle me this...

I penned a small story for @TicketCity this week detailing the top 5 rivalries in the Big 12 going into the season.

Man, once you get beyond Texas/OU and Bedlam, it's pretty slim pickings - Baylor vs TCU, Texas vs. Texas Tech and Kansas vs. Kansas State were the other three I selected.

It's a pretty gross list if you think about it for more than three seconds. Can anyone argue for another Big 12 rivalry that warrants bumping one of those three out?

No. 6 - Story-time with Uncle Ketch...
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Sometimes we can all use a reminder that the players on the Texas football team are all a bunch of kids. Oh, maybe some of them are young adults by the time they leave, but at the age of 42, they all look like a bunch of kids to me.

Don't ask me why this story stands out in my head after all of these years, but there are so many small lessons inside of it.

It was the summer of 2002 and one of the young players on the Texas roster called me to ask if I knew someone that would want to buy his Big 12 Championship ring. I told him that I didn't know of anyone that was into that kind of thing and that even if I did, I wouldn't tell him because I thought it was a huge mistake. Still, the player argued with me that he had financial issues and he needed the money.

Then he said something I've never forgotten.

"What's the big deal? It's just a Big 12 South ring," he told me. "I'll replace it next year with a conference championship ring."

So, he sold the ring for $150. Twelve months later, he was no longer in the program and he never played another down of major college football. As it turns out, that ring was the only ring he ever earned as a college athlete.

The big financial issue that he sold his ring over?

He had to pay his cell phone bill.

No. 7 – Buy or Sell …
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BUY or SELL: By the bowl game, the best QB on the roster will be a freshman?

(Sell) I'm buying stock in Ehlinger very quietly right now.

BUY or SELL: Sam finishes the year with a higher QB rating than Kyler?

(Sell) I believe in Lincoln Riley's offense more at the moment than I do Tom Herman's. If forced to give one unproven side a little more benefit of the doubt, I have to give it to the guy without identity issues with his offensive unit.

BUY or SELL: There will be plenty of college coaches/programs who will still care too much about winning, therefor this Urban Meyer scandal won’t be near the last one we see?

(Buy) This is what the sausage looks like when it's being made. I stopped believing that nice guys in this sport is possible when the supposedly super-character guy Chris Peterson covered for Art Briles when the Baylor scandal was really taking off. The coaches in the profession are more Silk Road than Main Street in Maybarry.

BUY or SELL: Buy or Sell: With the Longhorns being ranked in the Top 25 to start the season, being ranked in the Top 10 at some point this season is a real possibility?

(Buy) I think a 3-0 start will have them just on the cusp of the Top 10.

BUY or SELL: if Texas Defense improves from last years play and has no major injuries and on offense we manage 210 rushing and 240 passing per game we have a shot at 10 wins?

(Buy) You just described a Big 12 championship team.

BUY or SELL: It’s the fall of 2006, Colt is not on the team, but all 4 current scholarship QBs are (in their current stage of development). You would start Buechele on that team?

(Sell) I start the better, more dynamic option, which at the moment is Sam Ehlinger.

BUY or SELL: We suck until we don't?

(Buy) Hold the rope, fellas.

BUY or SELL: As tragic as it would be, Meyer's PR group and blame machine has done enough to keep him at tOSU?

(Sell) This story is going to be a slow, incredibly messy drip. He's a liar and the answers to so many questions simply won't allow it.

BUY or SELL: at pressers, Austin media and sports media will keep raising the issue of Zach Smith and what Herman and his tOSU assistants knew about the situation until they answer the questions straight on?

(Sell) Not unless a reason for those questions develops. It seems to me that Herman has been given a pass on this subject for the most part.I haven't heard that it's been asked about in the last two media sessions that he has participated in from the weekend.

BUY or SELL: Liverpool win the EPL this season?
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No. 8 – Eternal Randomness of the Spotty Sports Mind …

... I'm trying to charge my NFL jets, but I just can't seem to shake the cobwebs. I need to set up my fantasy league this year. Just doing one. I'll do my best to be an A-plus commish.

... I had no desire to watch Ray Lewis' 33-minute HOF speech. No thanks.

... Cody Garbrandt needs to move along and forget that he ever tried to cross T.J. Dillashaw. That beef is officially settled.

... I'm still trying top process Mighty Mouse losing. It was a close fight, but I thought the judges got it right.

... Can we just see the Red Sox and Astros play a best of 11 series in October, please?

... I really can't explain my Phillies and how they are in first place. Five in a row and just cruising along at 15 games over .500. No way did I think this was a 90-win team... assuming it gets there.

... The Astros have a 141 run edge over the Athletics in run-differential, but only have a 4.5 game lead in the standings. Baseball can be so weird.

... Consider me Team LeBron forever after watching him unveil his new school for at-risk youth this week.

... There's a part of me that thinks Jalen Hurts is starting at Texas next year.

... Liverpool is going to win the EPL title. Man City is going to play in the Champions League Final.

... Josef Martinez has 26 goals in 24 games for Atlanta United in the MLS. I'm curious to see what happens to the 25-year old Venezuelan from here on out because I'd argue the MLS needs him to succeed in Europe moving forward more than it needs him to be the league's best player.

No. 9 - The List: Top 10 Cover Songs That Are Better than The Original ...

10. Al Green - How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?
9. Sinead o'Connor - Nothing Compares to You
8. Janis Joplin - Me and Bobby McGee
7. The Beatles - Twist and Shout
6. Ike and Tina Turner - Proud Mary
5. Johnny Cash - Hurt
4. Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You
3. Jimi Hendrix - All Along The watch Tower
2. Nirvana - Where Did You Sleep Last Night?
1. Jeff Buckley - Hallelujah

No. 10 – And Finally ...

Rest in peace, @hornsfan65
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Best piece I’ve read on here!

Great job Ketch.
 

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7 pages in but you should be happy with how your life turned out. You didn’t need that “man”. I could never imagine treating my flesh and blood that way.

Also you’re wrong on “Nothing Compares 2 U”. A live Prince song will always be infinitely better than any Shinehead O’Connor song.
 

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Ketch, you are a better man by not knowing him, and a better man than him for sure. Take care of your family, and thanks for OB.
 

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Haven't talked to my dad in 17 years. He has made no effort to contact me or see his only grandson since he was 1. He just graduated high school. I believe I am a better father because of this.

I'm sure you are to Ketch. Use it and enjoy your kids and be the best dad you can be.

This is the best community ever.
 
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Ketch,

You are par of a great, sometimes dysfunctional family right here.

Much luv brother.

D4horns
 

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Ketch,

Thank you for sharing. You only increased my respect for you. I realized how blessed I am.

What went down this weekend was hard to read. God Bless those that serve in the military. Never hesitate to call someone for help.

I have friends who served in Vietnam, and we look out for each other even in retirement. I have met some of my son's friends who have served in the last 10 years and have great respect for them.

Thank you for opening up.
 
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Great write up Ketch, I love this disfuctional OB family!
 

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With all due respect to your father, who deserves none, he's a dick. My biological father saw me and my brother until I was about 11 or so, then allowed my mom's second hubby to adopt us. I never saw bio-man again, even though he lived in the same city as I did. My mom hated him, and posted in the local paper anytime I or my brother accomplished something of note as a professional. I think she did it just to spite him. He died some time ago, and I often wonder what his thoughts were when/if he read the paper. Fortunately, my adoptive Dad was an amazing father who enjoyed spending time with me and my brother and who also was amazing grandfather. Dementia changed things for the last few years of his life, but the great memories remain. I feel bad (sort of) for your father who is missing those memories. Can't imagine how painful that must have been to listen to him. What a dick.

Moving on, great piece, as always. As a prof at UT, I often had athletes in my classes (education), and they all thought they were going pro, even if they rarely saw the field. Sad.

Look forward to seeing Sterns on the field. Hard to believe a freshman can compete against the big guys, but your comment about 5 stars in spot on. We need MANY more. Just win, Baby, and they will come.

Hang in there! And thanks for starting OB -- have made some lasting friendships in my long tenure as a member.

Hook 'em!!!
 
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Ketch, your mom must be an amazing woman because she seems to have done a great job raising you.
I have a ton of respect for you for the way you handle your business and the genuinely decent, thoughtful human being you have shown yourself to be. Thank you for the entertaining community you've built here
 

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God bless you Ketch. I was very moved by your background story. Your are a fine human being that has overcome quite a handicap.
Hats off to your mother also. Have been a fan of yours for a long time but now I' m even a bigger fan and proud to
be a member of your Orangeblood family.
Would like to meet you someday. I'm 68 and live in Tyler but maybe I can come to a tailgate party.
I'm 55 and I live in Tyler as well. We should get together for a golf game or to tip one.
 

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Ketch- long time member and more of a lurker than a contributor, but wanted to say that this was an amazing post from you. It was poignant and well written and... needed. Tough week for everyone and I wept as I read this. Thank you and know that we love you and are so much better off for having you and the community in our lives.
 

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Man, I didn’t know it was like that. My heart broke a little for you brother. I hope you got some closure from it at least. I know with some of the things I’ve been through recently, when the people involved just blatantly lit me up with their harsh reality, it actually allowed me to let go.
 

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I love the what Hand said about Calvin. Obviously every player should be held accountable.

I'm probably the least known dude in this OB family, but I know each and every dude on this board will have my back if needed.

From South Dakota, huh?

I grew up there. Came to UT for graduates and never left. Still live in Austin.
 

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Nice write up. I had a father that was in my life, but not in my life. He died in December and my brother and I really don't miss him. I have tried to be the best father I could. I talk with my son everyday and just hung up with him talking Texas football.
 

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After some reflection on this one Ketch I think the guy is getting what he deserves. No one that guy isnt living an empty, unhappy life. No matter what successes he's had in life, he's an empty shell of a human being let alone a father.

He will die a sad, lonely death - even if surrounded by people. I almost feel pity for him. Almost.